{"id":1955,"date":"2026-03-14T09:30:09","date_gmt":"2026-03-14T08:30:09","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/adlj.nl\/jaen\/?p=1955"},"modified":"2026-03-15T09:45:53","modified_gmt":"2026-03-15T08:45:53","slug":"ongesteld","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/adlj.nl\/jaen\/ongesteld\/","title":{"rendered":"Ongesteld"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Periode<\/strong><\/p>\n

De (vrouwelijke) cyclus is van alle tijden.
\nIn de ene cultuur een natuurlijk proces, in de andere onbespreekbaar.<\/p>\n

Huh?<\/p>\n

Veel van wat we ervaren, kunnen vragen, mogen verwachten hangt samen met masculien en feminien gedrag.<\/p>\n

Stevige buikpijn onbespreekbaar?!<\/p>\n

Buikpijn is van alle tijden en daar hebben we als mens oplossingen voor. Veel is te koop maar geluk en een gezond lijf niet.
\nVerlichting in donkere tijden?
\nGezond verstand en steun helpt waar en wanneer nodig.
\nZieke mensen hebben begrip nodig en tijd voor herstel.<\/p>\n

Doorstaan is doorgaan en alleen samen<\/strong> kan je hulp geven. Ook wanneer vragen ongesteld blijven.<\/p>\n

De donkere periode waarin we nu leven vind ik onacceptabel. Het is geen natuurlijk proces maar menselijk mishandelen.<\/p>\n

Hulpvraag \u00a0om vrede en begrip wordt onbewust <\/strong>fout beantwoord.<\/p>\n

Over de ‘ongestelde’ vraag <\/strong>(figuurlijk):
\nIn een zakelijke of gesprekscontext wordt gesproken over de ‘magische vraag’* om een onuitgesproken, onderliggende vraag of behoefte in een gesprek bloot te leggen en te beantwoorden.<\/p>\n

Daar gaan we weer, de grote ontwijkshow is gestart, \u2018wat wordt er zorgvuldig om dat ene onderwerp heen gesproken
\nen wederom doet niemand iets\u2019.
\nIedereen voelt het ongemak, de irritatie of het wantrouwen.
\nVragen worden wel gesteld maar antwoorden blijven uit.
\nHet gesprek wordt gevoerd, maar niet daar waar over zou moeten gaan. Er sluimert ongemak, frustratie en conflict. Steeds ongemakkelijker, zweteriger en klammer wordt het. Niemand durft h\u00e9t onderwerp ter sprake te brengen. Daar word je letterlijk niet goed van.<\/p>\n

\u2018\u2019Waar heb jij nu geen antwoord op als het gaat over dit plan?\u2019\u2019<\/p>\n

(De \u00a0aanval is de oplossing. Wanneer eindigt deze ellende?)<\/p>\n

Geweld is geen antwoord. Hulp maakt beter. \u00a0Wie helpt zal magie ervaren.<\/p>\n

Ik geloof dat dat het enige vruchtbare begin bij opstarten van een nieuwe tijd kan zijn.<\/p>\n

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klik voor achtergrond magische info<\/a><\/p>\n

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